Husband and wife are the two wheels of a car, at least that’s what I was told. But I think, if it is the wheels of the car, then one wheel is surely the husband and the rest three is the wife, undoubtedly. A married woman does so many things in the marriage that it is unjust to call her one wheel.
COVID-19 has taught us so many lessons; one being, the probability of looking after and even financing the home when your husband loses the job. Although for some of us, life remained the same (financially), some had to see major pitfalls along the way. Life isn’t a bed of roses but it becomes more difficult if your sole breadwinner becomes jobless. If you are a housewife and facing a similar situation, here are a few tips for you to boost your husband’s morale and provide him with the much-needed strength.
01: Provide emotional support
Make him realize that he is not alone in this situation. Losing a job can take a huge toll on his mental health and he requires all the emotional support. Don’t nudge him now and then and take care of his needs as you used to do before. I’ve seen women turning a cold shoulder when their husbands are going through a financial crisis. If you are a housewife, that doesn’t make you inferior. If you cannot help financially, you can console him with your words of support and encouragement.
02: Start a small business
Starting and running a business is not rocket science especially in the era of the internet and social media. It would have been difficult for a housewife to run a business a decade ago but not anymore. All of us have a smartphone and you can run a small business with a few taps and clicks. If your husband has lost his job, instead of poking him now and then, use your skills and do something that helps. If you can cook well, start a home-based food business. Those who can stitch, embroider, knit, crochet, and bake can showcase their skills and earn good money.
03: Manage your finances
Losing a job can be a great setback for the entire family. Finding a new job can take several weeks or maybe months. Instead of spending in the usual way, try managing your finances. Assess all your assets and see how far they can take you. Try cutting down on extra spending, postpone vacations/ big purchases, and bring the expenses to a minimum. Tell yourself, “This too shall pass” and do not lose your heart. It will get better with time but for now, you need to save every penny.
04: Seek help
Instead of crawling back into a cave, go out and get in touch with more people. Ask them to help your husband find a job. Post on social media, join job portals and browse newspapers. Socializing is a great way to make contacts. Once your name is out there, you will find a job.
05: Pray to Allah
There is nothing bigger than the divine power of the Almighty Allah. Pray to him to help you through this difficult time. He will make way for you out of nothing. Believe in His ways. Ask Him for forgiveness and seek refuge in His shelter.
When your partner loses his job, it can be very difficult for you to deal with, but if you put yourself in his shoes, you will realize the pain he must be going through. Ups and downs are part of life, and one’s true colors are revealed in a time of difficulty. Stand by your husband and deal with it together.