Whenever we talk about the relationship of a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law, it is seen in a negative connotation, at least that is what I have observed growing up in Pakistani society. It is portrayed as a tense and competitive relationship, whereas it can turn out to be one of the most beautiful bonds.
Recently, at friends get together, I asked all my married friends about what they want to tell their mothers-in-law. I was surprised by the responses I received as there were so many things that girls wish to say out loud to their mothers-in-law but are too afraid to do so. It is as sad as it seems but today I will say it out LOUD.
This one is especially for all the mothers-in-law out there.
Initially, it can be frustrating to see your son taking care of another woman in the same house, holding doors, bringing flowers, or paying special attention to his newlywed wife. As a mother, try to accept her as your daughter and encourage your son to keep her happy instead of getting jealous. Also, accept your daughter-in-law for who she is. This is one of the most important things that mothers-in-law often turn a blind eye to. Trust me, you cannot change a person as per your liking.
02. Building a relationship
Your newlywed daughter-in-law is as scared as you were when you entered this house as a bride, so be considerate and thoughtful towards her. As a mother-in-law, you have to cultivate a relationship, spend time with her, talk to her, make her feel comfortable, and welcome her as your daughter. Relationships are fragile; they should be showered with love and kindness so that they grow into a beautiful bond, so being a good mother-in-law will get you a good daughter-in-law.
03. Complimenting vs. criticizing
A simple appreciation or compliment hurts no one; it can brighten your daughter-in-law’s day, and bring a smile to her face. It is important that you compliment instead of criticizing, and trust me you will feel good too!
04. Mistakes are a part of life
“To err is to human,” we all make mistakes, and I am sure you must have made mistakes too. Your daughter-in-law will learn from these mistakes, and if she is making them often, then guide her instead of criticizing her.
05. Think nothing but the best
It can be hard to adjust to a new person, that too all of a sudden, but it is as difficult for your daughter-in-law as it is for you because leaving your parents is hard, and you have gone through that feeling. So thinking best about your daughter-in-law will keep you positive and happy, and in the long run, satisfied too that your son is in good hands.
This is all for now! I hope all you women who are going to be mothers-in-law later in life or already are, take away some good points from this article.
Lastly, I would like to know your thoughts on this.