Have you recently been divorced? To be sure, the period after divorce may be difficult as well. After a divorce, a person’s life becomes complicated and burdensome.
It’s a roller coaster of emotions that no one wants to ride alone. It’s also difficult to adjust to being single again and living “out of the habit” of marriage, especially if you’ve been married for an extended time. To begin moving your life ahead, start by concentrating on yourself. Utilize this priceless opportunity to realize your true self. Consider this period of your life as an expedition to discover your true self.
Take a deep breath and say… Would the ‘true me’ kindly stand up?
Here are some essential characteristics that may assist you in healing after divorce.
01. Admire your majesty
Recognizing that you were born with “gold nuggets” is difficult for many individuals. Consider how beautiful you indeed are! Over time, you may have forgotten your particular abilities and are only concerned with what you dislike about yourself or your life. Beginning today, create a new purpose to create a list of your beautiful traits and read it daily. Please continue to read it until you believe it. For instance, a lovely grin, giving, loving, caring, and intelligence… Continue. Permit yourself to glimpse the gleaming gold that resides inside. It is already present!
02. A few minutes a day may make a significant impact
It is natural to experience grief during and after a divorce, comparable to how one feels following the loss of a loved one. Many people feel compelled to stay active to divert their attention from this challenging moment. Make time for yourself every day, even if it’s just for 10 minutes, to be the most fantastic parent for yourself and your children. It might be as easy as going for a stroll or curling up with a good book and a cup of tea. Permit yourself. Your happiness directly affects the pleasure of your family!
03. Take care of yourself
Breakups may lead to you neglecting the most vital person in your life, which is you. You may find yourself spending the entire day in bed, eating a variety of unhealthy foods, not exercising, drinking, exhibiting poor hygiene, isolating yourself from family and friends, and failing to manage your daily affairs. Create a short routine (nothing too strenuous) to get you going again, even when you don’t “feel” like it. This enables you to restore your momentum and vitality.
04. Lighten up
Generally, life after divorce entails more duties. If you’re a single parent or have taken up responsibility for a previously shared to-do list, how can you manage it all without becoming overwhelmed? To begin, cultivate a greater capacity for laughter, particularly at oneself. Acquire the ability to let go and not take life too seriously.
Improve your capacity to be fully present in the moment at all times. Living in the present now is where all of life’s “wonderful stuff” occurs. Consider this: When one misses this moment in time, one misses out on life.
Therefore, how do we live in the present moment?
If you are stressed, instantly abandon the ideas now occupying your mind and remove your blinders. Begin by taking a look at you. Examine everything with care. Concentrate intensely. Make use of all of your senses! Observe your children, for instance, if you are with them. Preserve their grins. Greet them with an embrace. Consider the natural beauty of who they are and express gratitude for their presence in your life.
To be present, regardless of where you are, utilize all of your senses to reintroduce yourself to the current moment. Take a moment to absorb the beauty that surrounds you. You need to be present to see it!
Books to heal after going through a divorce:
Addendum to this article by Editor Surviving Susral
- The Divorce Recovery Workbook: How to Heal from Anger, Hurt, and Resentment and Build the Life You Want by Mark S. Rye and Crystal Dea Moore helps you cope up with the feelings of remorse, betrayal, and loss after your divorce. The compassionate approach of the book helps you move on in your life and heal after going through a divorce. This book has been written by relationship and psychology maestros and has garnered a great readership and praise globally.
- Living and Loving after Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment by Steven Stosny is a great book developed on the foundations of his famous program CompassionPower. It focuses on teaching practical techniques and strategies for overcoming depression, resentment, and betrayal.
- You’ll Come Back to Yourself is written in poetry by Michaela Angermeer and is currently the number one bestseller on Amazon that dives deeper into the themes of lost love, infidelity, and depression. Many people have been able to move on in their lives and learned to love themselves after reading the book.